Learn The Art of Personality Development [Step by Step]

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No doubt working on personality development seems a challenging job.

It is more fun to sit back in the couch, eat pizza, pour in pop and watch your favorite t.v show instead of going to gym and working out hard.


Criticize others and not staying positive yourself.

Likewise, it’s much easier to avoid the dress etiquettes as compared to following a proper dress code and so on.

But look!

It is not a difficult as it seems to be. You just need to incorporate some changes in yourself and then see dramatic results.

If you don’t work on your personality development you will end up just be a mediocre. A gaze at the successful people’s lives reveals the fact that they spend a great deal of time on their personality development. They try to look good; stay fit; eat healthy; think positive and add value to the society and surrounding.

Thus, personality development is very important for every individual if he/she wants to live a serene life. I’ll share these 15 points with you. If your adapt to these point, success is guaranteed!

 1. Be presentable

On many occasions we get lousy about our outlooks which gives out a very undesirable impression to the people we interact with.

You shouldn’t be careless about your presentation.

Guess why?

Because people “judge the book by its cover”. So, you don’t want to give a bad first impression.

A good first impression is very important, whether it’s the business world or it’s your first date with someone.

If you have a beard it should be properly trimmed. If you shave you should shave daily. Similarly, the outfit which you wear draws a considerable amount of attention.

Properly dressed people are treated with respect and heed is paid to what they say.

We should realize the fact that everyone isn’t born as cool as David Beckham. Yes, he is gifted with special characters but a lot of it comes from how he presents himself. He does it perfectly.

Related: 30 Do’s And Don’ts Of Dress Code Every Man Should Follow.

2. Fake it till you make it.

Faking is no joke people!

I have seen its significance for many years and i can assure you it literally works.

But how? lemme explain:

When you mimic some activity your brain stores that data in your unconscious and then those thoughts, ideas and perceptions are transformed into your personality in the long run.

So, if you “act” gentle, diligent and progressive ultimately it will become an integral part of you.

Moreover, we are also influenced by different people in our lives; e.g our parents, some celebrity or one of our high school teacher. Absorbing positive traits from these people can help develop our personality in a better way.

This doesn’t mean that one should start copying others in every way; it is just a guideline for what we can become. Faking should initiate the learning process, instead of making you an impostor.

3. Keep yourself physically fit. Workout!

Simple question: who grabs your attention more? someone in shape or someone out of shape?

That was quite rhetoric is guess. Of course those who are in good shape

Working our is one of the basic ingredient of personality development drills is to sweat and sweat more.

You have to get out of your comfort zone and  start working out.

I know it is hard to do so. But hey! If you want to change then it must be done.

It could be anything. Go to a gym and lift weights, jog, play tennis or squash or football. The idea is to get in shape. One can easily tell from the body of a person that how much she takes care of herself. A properly tamed body gives you this natural confidence which is vital for every action to perform.

On the contrary, a slouching body speak for itself. A person not being able to take care of himself cannot do well for his company or his family.

4. Embrace positivity:

I’ll begin with an inspiring example:

Eddie Rickenbacker and his companions had an agonizing twenty one days journey when they were hopelessly lost in the Pacific. He says “The biggest lesson I learned from that experience was that if you have all the fresh water you want to drink and all the food you want to eat, you ought never to complain about anything.”

What this story tells us is that there are millions of positive things going on with us, generally we take them for granted. we need to focus on these things and cherish them while they last.

For personality development it is cardinal. It’s all in your mind. If you are a positive person you will positively influence the people who come in contact with you.

5. Read books:

It may sound bookish but it has not substitute.

Books are one of the vital medium which can foster a vibrant personality. They are a bona fide source of knowledge and information that can transform behaviors. Books provides a person a board horizon and a vision to see things out of the box.

Similarly, they harbor maturity in people and provide valuable insight of things. In order to develop your personality one should always spare time in daily routine to read books recommended by successful people. 

For example, Warren Buffet says he started his investment career by reading books related to investment. Those books changed his entire view about speculations and investment. He went on and became the richest man in the world.

Therefore, if  there wasn’t any fervid reading involved, we may not have a Warren Buffet now.

6. Believe in yourself:

Have you ever thought about the difference between successful and unsuccessful people?

One of the basic thing which unsuccessful people have in common is not believing in themselves.

The moment you start believing in your capabilities; things will change dramatically for better. Believing in oneself is the gist of personality development.

Think about all the successful people of our age. The millionaires and the billionaires, if it were not believing in themselves, would they have achieved the level of success which they have now? No!

E.g Michael Jordan one of the greatest basketball player of all times was cut from his high school varsity team, he had many downfalls in his career but he kept trying and believing in himself.

Consequently, he achieved what many can only dream of. That’s why personality development demands high level of self-esteem and self-belief.

7. Make friends:

Why do you need friends for personality development?

Because in order to have a happy life friends pivotal. Friends play a key role in a successful journey of people. Moreover, you cannot achieve any milestone by solo flight. You need people who support you through thick and thin.

But sometimes making friends can become a difficult task for some of us.

Dale Carnegie’s Book  “How to Win Friends & Influence People” can be of help. An exquisite piece of writing which will have a profound effect on your life and personality development.

8. Get familiar with technology:

Quite often i hear lame excuse about the use of technology. “Oh i am too bad with these gadgets and computer”.

Get over with it.

Mind you It’s a tech world.

If you don’t adjust yourself with the technological advancements around you, you will lag behind. Similarly, if you mold yourself according to the needs and demands of the modern world you can benefit tremendously from the technology.

Your ten years old kid probably knows more than your do about social media. You can learn from her. Bo There’s no shame in doing that.

9. Never stop the journey of learning:

I can’t emphasize more one this point:

Always be open to learning no matter what stage of life you are.

One of my friends shared a very interesting story about learning with me.

“I was never good at maths” he says “From the days of childhood I sucked big time at numbers. I avoided it at every stage. somehow I managed to pass the exams but I never actually learned mathematics.

However, as time passed by I realized maths is involved in everything. You go to a job interview, calculate your tax returns, do groceries and so on, you need maths! I finally realized that there’s no way of avoiding it. Thus, I started learning it at a very mature age and I got successful, eventually”.

The crux of the story is that be open to learning all the time. Don’t be hesitant about it.

10. Talk to yourself:

Here’s the deal,

Once in a while talk to yourself about what you are and where you want to be in self-improvement. It will help enormously.

You’ll get to know your pros and cons and then you will have material to work on.

Further, sometimes we know that we are performing a wrong act but we tend to ignore it. Self-judging will solve that issue.

11. Eat healthy:

Your health depends a lot on what you eat.

Similarly, a balance diet which includes proteins, carbohydrates, mineral, fats, vitamins and other important ingredients are also necessary for healthy body, healthy mind and a healthy personality.

Harvard School of Public Health has created a “The Healthy Eating Plate“. It provides a basic guidelines about what should be included in your diet. For starters it’s a good plan to follow.

Make sure you take a balanced diet. If you are vegetarian, look for protein sources than meat.

12: The power of Meditation:

In our daily stressed and hectic routine meditation can be an answer to get rid of a lot of anxieties and to attain peace of mind.

Meditation simply means applying certain prescribed techniques which allow us to relax, increase internal energy and liveliness.

Moreover, it doesn’t take much time; only 10-15 minutes in the morning will do.

Many celebrities like Hugh Jackman, Oprah Winfrey, Richard Gere and Angelina Jolie are meditating for a long time and terms the experience as unique and soothing. Therefore, start meditating from today.

13. Know yourself:

There’s a famous quote “An objective is an ambition and life without ambition is…..well aimless wandering”.

You need to answer these questions; Who are you? What purpose are you following? Do you have any aim? What are your pros and cons? and so on.

In addition, you need to do introspection to observe your mental and emotional dimensions. To make it simple, one can begin with SWOT analysis of oneself. SWOT stands for

  • Strengths
  • Weaknesses
  • Opportunities
  •  Threats.

Thus, SWOT analysis will give you inside information about yourself which you can further cogitate on.

14. Wear a smile for personality development:

I can’t emphasize more:

Wear a big smile all the time.

A board smile changes the entire outlook of your face. Moreover, when you meet someone with a pleasant smile; it has a pleasant impact on him.

E.g, you may have noticed when a doctor examines you and talks to you in a polite tone with a smile; half of your worry about the problem is already gone. Similarly, when a shopkeeper handles you with a warm smile on his face, you want to buy again from his shop.

On the contrary, if you approach someone with a dull face, you inflict negativity to the whole meeting. Therefore, in the world of worry and troublesome, always walk around with a smile on your face.

15. Be a listener not a talker:

Do you like the person who always talks, never let you talk and don’t listen to you?


We hate hanging around such people who don’t listen to us. When you constantly talk, you lose the opportunity to learn new things and absorb useful information in yourself.

On the other hand, if you listen to others, not only does it show your affection towards that person, but it also helps you to gain from others’ experiences.

Therefore, instead of talking, focus more on listening. 

To sum it up, personality development is crucial for every age group and profession of people. It betters you as in individual and provides you with an opportunity to explore many appealing opportunities leading to success in life. Therefore, before wasting any time you should start working on yourself right now by following above mentioned points!



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